I’ve been getting a lot of advice recently. It’s all really good intentioned… but some of it just won’t work for me. So today, I’m going to give you advice (giggle!) on how to take advice- even if it doesn’t seem like something that would work for you!
Do you have cleaners?
I have a friend who has cleaners come to her house. She absolutely loves them. And she recommended them to me, as well.
Maybe you don’t know me very well… but having cleaners come to my home would drive me nuts! The idea of dodging people as I’m at home (either working or relaxing) would make me batty. And honestly, I don’t mind cleaning. I find it sort of relaxing.
Given that I don’t dislike cleaning and don’t want to have people in my house… it’s just not a good way for me to spend my money.
So, is the advice bad? Not really!
Look behind the advice
To make ‘bad’ advice work for you, you have to dig a little into the motivation. What my friend was really saying was, “I’m a lot happier with a clean home” and “I feel really luxurious when I get something taken care of that I don’t like doing”. Those are great pieces of advice! She just didn’t say them that way!
I have another friend who recommends getting your hair done every 4 weeks. Uh huh. Again, good for her… but just not what I’m into. But her underlying message, “I feel good when I treat myself a little” is a good one!
Have you received some advice that has a hidden message?
There’s a lot of advice on the surface that seems like it totally doesn’t suit you, and it’s easy to just toss it out the window. But I encourage you to think about the motivation behind it… you might discover a juicy little nugget you can use!
Other articles you might enjoy:
- 10 Tips to Advise Wisely: How to Give Advice That Actually Helps by Tiny Budda
- When (and when not) to Take Advice by Tiny Budda
- How To Take Good Advice and Actually Use It To Better Your Life by Alex Vermeer
- 5 Ways to take Advice by Nilofer Merchant